They say you can't love unless you first love yourself. But is that true? My first lesson to you is self love. You know, I loved my first born daughter before I loved myself, I loved my husband and married him because of that love before I loved myself and I loved God all my life while unknowingly withholding love for myself at the same time. Love is is such a mystery who can understand it? It can be given in a heart that is full of fear, anger and distrust. But that love is never whole. Whitney Houston said it best that the greatest love of all is learning how to love ourselves.  So my ladies take a moment and write down all the good and bad that you are:

• Get quiet and alone. In the mornings, evenings , on a lunch break or any quiet time
• Accept the written words. Even the ones you want to one day change. Because acceptance is the start of new beginnings.
• Decide to begin to love yourself more.
• Everyday read what you have wrote and confess them out loud.
• Take a breath and breathe in those words. Speak honest affirmations about who you are and who you want to become. because your words are powerful. What you say and think about yourself moves mountains in you and around you.

When we begin to love ourselves again so much begins to change in us and around us. Rather we realize it or not the pit of despair, negativity and self doubt eats away at our lives leaving us void of joy and shrinks us down into depression. I have came a long way but this exercise helps me get my mind back in focus with reality when my insecurities begin to creep back in. It's still a struggle for me years after starting my own self love journey. But it was a journey worth taking.

xoxoxo

Johnnatta Giles | Owner of VC