"What is wrong with me?" I cry out.  My husband asks am I okay. I tell him that every night I've been feeling sick.. He says, "Go sit down and let me take care of this" . As he continues to prep and cook dinner, I without one second of protest walk into my room and tipped toed fall onto my bed. As I lay I can feel the pain and nausea melt away minute by minute. I'm exhausted. I've done too much on too little sleep. As I lay back I'm thanking God for the help my husband gives me. Without his willingness to help me whenever I need it, I don't know how I could get through my days.

To my brothers, fathers. husbands and all that you are to the women in your life,

Rather she says it or not she needs you. A little help goes such a long way for us. Some of us (me included) enjoy being a mom and doing all the things that come with it. Sometimes that joy can blind us to our own exhaustion or even pain. We need to be seen too sometimes. We need for someone to see our needs before we know we need help like we do for everyone else every day. I'm not saying read her mind or she shouldn't ever have to vocalize her needs, but be proactive sometimes. We need someone to step in and just stand beside us so we can have help too. And guys, please if you can do it within 15 minutes of us asking that would be great! Even if it's to dry the dishes or prep the food. We need you. Can you bathe a baby while mom cooks? Or help your son fold clothes properly so mom doesn't have to fix it later because... he's learning. She would love to finish a chapter in her book instead of going back over the laundry later to make sure it fits properly.

To you it may just look like a stack of cotton towels, but to her, it's her home. A home in which she has worked years to create and she is proud of every bit of it. As man and women we have different perspectives on life. That's what makes us work so well together when we humble ourselves and be each other's help mate's. Thank you to all the men that do this already, keep it up dude! This life can throw the worst curveballs and she will always need you! But for those of you that don't quite know what to do, from a mother and wife I hope this little letter helps you see her a bit  differently.

Your help could change everything. This life is so short to live it stuck in traditions of old. The past holds many treasure but also contains harmful cultures we shouldn't be so quick to return to. This generation is changing things for the better! Let's keep that going because a family that works together is so much stronger than ones that work among each other but separate. We as the new generation of parents can do it better and reap the rewards of a home with partners. And how much more will our children benefit from seeing both mom and dad working together for the common good of their lives? The rewards are powerful and endless!